AITAH for evicting my pregnant sister after years of discounted rent, verbal abuse, and her throwing out thousands of dollars of my property?
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Hey Reddit, This is a long one, so I have a TL;DR at the end. About 9 years ago, I bought a single‑family home as an investment property. Around that time, my sister and her then‑boyfriend (now husband) were displaced by Hurricane Harvey and living in a cramped apartment with his mother. I offered them the rental at a heavily discounted rate because it needed cosmetic work, but we signed a proper lease. I love my sister, but I wasn’t giving her a free house. For years, I dealt with constant verbal and emotional abuse from her husband, and sometimes from her. Anytime something needed fixing—even lightbulbs—I handled it immediately. I babysat their first child whenever they needed me. And not just normal babysitting — there were multiple times I’d be watching the baby for hours past when I was supposed to be relieved because her husband “didn’t feel like coming home yet.” I tried to keep the peace, even when their aggression spilled over to my fiancé; if they didn’t get their way with me, they’d harass him instead. As for repairs: I want to be fair here. Not every repair request was something I did . I always weighed whether it was a safety issue, a functional issue, or just cosmetic — and whether it was financially feasible at the time. I wasn’t perfect, but I genuinely tried to be a responsible landlord, not a pushover or a slumlord. On top of that, she made maintaining the property nearly impossible. She would refuse to let me or contractors into the house at times, and I had to follow a strict two‑hour window (8–10 a.m. or 3–5 p.m.) because her child might be napping. I actually had contractors decline future work because the access restrictions were so unreasonable. In December, my sister announced she was pregnant again and asked if I could renovate the spare room and build an office in the attic. I got quotes, but the attic project was too expensive after I’d just replaced the roof. She understood. Then in February, she had what I can only describe as a manic episode. She rented a dumpster and told , not asked, me to help her throw out “extra stuff,” including new carpet I had stored there. My fiancé and I both have bad backs, but we agreed to try. The day arrives, and the construction crew is already there working on the spare room. She never gave me a time to meet her. While I’m showering, my fiancé bursts in furious—her husband had messaged him (not me, the owner) accusing him of “making a pregnant woman move heavy items alone.” My fiancé tried to explain we planned to come over, but her husband escalated, so my fiancé blocked him. I tried calling my sister to figure out what was going on. She blocked my call. When I messaged her, she accused me of never intending to help, then said she “took care of it.” Minutes later she tells me to come get the old door from the renovation. I told her to put it in the garage because I planned to reuse it for the attic reno. She blew up, saying she would’ve thrown it out if she’d known, and that she had “just cleaned the garage of all my shit.” Turns out she had thrown away 8 "soggy/moldy" boxes of LVP flooring (vinyl doesn’t get soggy), tools, and other materials—thousands of dollars of my property—because she decided I “didn’t need them.” That was the breaking point. I told her she had 90 days to move out. Suddenly she “loves the house,” “never wants to leave,” and starts weaponizing her pregnancy: “How could you do this to a pregnant woman?” She also threatened that if I went through with it, I’d “never see her kids again.” My father tried to mediate. He set up a meeting between just my sister and me — no significant others — to try to keep the peace. During that meeting, she told me she’d be giving birth around the time I wanted her out. I told her I wasn’t trying to make her homeless and that if it took six months to find a place, then so be it. But I also told her I would not tolerate this behavior for another year or more. For context, she had made several attempts to look for a house in the past, but she had a “House Hunters” mentality — if she didn’t like the tile or the paint color, she’d reject the entire property. She ran to my parents—who know her history of verbal abuse—and cried to them. Now they’re telling me to “work it out,” “placate her,” and “just sell her the house.” I asked if they’d say the same if she were a random tenant treating me like this. My mom said yes because then I’d “be done with the headache.” Meanwhile, my sister secretly bought a house and planned to move out in the middle of the night without telling me or paying rent for the month. I only found out because I asked where the rent was, and she casually replied they’d be out by Sunday. My fiancé insists I’m not the asshole, but when it’s family, it’s hard to see clearly. So Reddit… AITAH for finally evicting my sister after years of abuse, manipulation, and her destroying my property? If there’s something I genuinely did wrong as a landlord or a sister, I want to hear it. The main reason I question this is due to the way my family has responded through all of this. TL;DR: Rented my investment property to my sister for 9 years at a huge discount. Endured years of verbal abuse from her and her husband. She restricted contractor access so badly that some refused to work with me. She also regularly left me babysitting for hours longer than agreed because her husband “didn’t want to come home.” I didn’t do every cosmetic repair she asked for, but I always handled safety and functional issues. She threw out thousands of dollars of my property, blocked me, lied, and guilt‑tripped me with her pregnancy. I gave her 90 days to move out and even offered up to 6 months after a mediated meeting. She threatened to withhold her kids, ran to my parents, and secretly bought a house intending to move out without paying rent. AITAH?
Intent Score
2
Intent
99
Confidence
Summary
The post is about a landlord-tenant family dispute and eviction, with no meaningful discussion of windows or window replacement.
Reasoning
There are no signs the author is dealing with window problems, comparing window options, or considering replacement; the content focuses on rent, abuse, repairs, and eviction of a sister and her family.
Extracted Signals
- unrelated home/property context
“About 9 years ago, I bought a single‑family home as an investment property.”
- general repairs, not windows
“As for repairs: I want to be fair here. Not every repair request was something I did . I always weighed whether it was a safety issue, a functional issue, or just cosmetic”
Model: gpt-5.4-mini · Prompt: v3 · 6/11/2026, 5:02:01 PM