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hi there! first time poster here so apologies for formatting issues etc. i could really use some advice/encouragement. i’m a 21F, 5”8, and currently 87kg. all my life i’ve been quite thin, and have battled with disordered eating on and off throughout childhood/teenagerhood. however, in the past year, i have gained a hell of a lot of weight without really noticing it happening. i have a WFH desk job which has meant that i’m sedentary for a huge portion of my days, and i’ll be honest, when i finish work i tend to just sit in front of the TV for most of the evening too. i can see and feel the effects on my body and i hate how unfit and sluggish i feel, i’m always aching somewhere and i know that i need to make a change. i’ve never purposefully lost weight before - even when my eating wasn’t disordered, i never ever seemed to gain any weight until recently - so i feel a bit lost and overwhelmed with contradicting advice. i used a BMI calorie calculator which told me that my maintenance calories for my current weight are around 2300, so i figured i should aim to reduce that to around 1700 daily. however, i downloaded a calorie counting app, and it has set me a lower goal of around 1550. i’ve been tracking for three days and to be honest it does feel manageable but i don’t want to do anything unsafe. as well as eating better, i’m also aiming to drastically increase my step count (before making a change i averaged an embarrassing 1k a day, if that). i’m also going to go back to the gym ~3x a week - i prioritise strength training as i usually walk 30 minutes to get there, and then a short cardio session at the end. just a note that i am also in therapy (started around 2 months ago) - working on the body AND mind! :) essentially, i feel like most of this is just guesswork. i’ve never done this before and i feel like i have no idea what i’m doing, if it’s sustainable, if it’s safe, etc etc. i have a couple of weddings coming up in June and i would love to aim for a fairly decent physical change by then, i know i won’t be at my goal weight by the which is fine but i’d really like to be healthier and more lean + toned by that point. honestly any and all constructive advice would be so appreciated!! thanks so so much in advance
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I was in the same spot earlier this year, feeling super overwhelmed by all the options out there. I kept hitting walls with insurance denials and just couldn’t tell which providers were legit or sketchy. Eventually, I realized I needed to focus on what felt right for me personally rather than getting lost in the noise. If you're interested, I’m happy to share what I found that worked for me.
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